This month I was kindly gifted a subscription to OMGYES, an educational website focusing on female sexual pleasure. Praised by UN Women’s goodwill ambassador and actress Emma Watson, I was extremely excited to sign up and find out what my partner and I could get out of this innovative website.
OMGYES came into being after a study into female pleasure and sexuality by OMGYES in partnership with researchers at Indiana University and The Kinsey Institute.
In the first study of its kind, 2,000 women were asked about their sex lives — not just what they liked, but how they liked it, at what speed, what pressure, how deep, how soft. As the researchers explained:
“[Until now] sex research has been about general behaviors, like percentages of people who masturbate or use vibrators. Or the biology of what happens inside the body during sex and orgasm. But the actual techniques for women’s pleasure just hadn’t been researched before”.
After gathering this wealth of real-life information on female pleasure, OMGYES compiled an interactive online resource for both men and women which openly discusses and demonstrates (yes, demonstrates) real life techniques for giving women incredible sexual experiences.
What Is OMGYES?
This site is the bible of pleasure, dictated by real women. The information it provides is something I really feel all men and women should have access to.
Not only does OMGYES let users physically see sexual techniques being demonstrated by real women, it also features very clever simulation videos which lets users ‘practice’ each of the different techniques on virtual vaginas and receive feedback on how well they have listened and executed each move.
All this is done in an honest, sensitive and sex-positive way and the site feels like a safe learning space for anyone who wants to learn more about pleasing their female partners, as well as individuals who simply want to explore their bodies and learn what feels good.
When I first heard about OMGYES, I’ll admit that my first thought was “What can my partner and I possibly learn from this that we haven’t already figured out? I don’t need to be told what to do, I’m a fantastic lover!’. Although in principle I was sure this could only be a resource for good, a small part of me worried that it would be interesting, but ultimately a waste of time.
I. Was. So. Wrong.
In entering myself and my partner into the OMGYES training (it’s not as laborious as it sounds, you get to have a lot of orgasms), we found ourselves talking about female pleasure a lot. Or more specifically, why female pleasure isn’t taken as seriously as men’s.
The reality is, female pleasure is something we just don’t talk about, and therefore gets forgotten about. It’s not being spoken about, and until now has not been researched with any seriousness.
If you’ve ever watched straight porn, you’ll know that the camera generally focuses on the woman’s body, and what the man is doing to her. Point of View porn exists for a reason. Why? Because this is what is going to make straight guys orgasm. The focus of most hetero porn, even when it’s lesbian porn, is men getting their rocks off. We’re certain he’s going to have an orgasm, and whether the woman comes or not isn’t really important to the narrative. Except that it should be important.
What men do to women in porn isn’t how women like to be pleasured in real life. There’s so much more to giving women orgasms than in-and-out, or up-and-down (which, in case you didn’t know, rarely works).
This is why OMGYES is so important. Even for men who think they’re amazing in bed. Even for women who have their tried-and-tested methods of bringing themselves to climax, even for couples who have the most steamy sex in the world. As my husband always says, if you’ve reached a point where you’ve got nothing left to learn, what’s the point in anything at all? And learn we did.
Last Wednesday I logged into OMGYES.com, winked at my husband and left him alone with the laptop.
Apparently he became so engrossed in it that he didn’t come up to bed until the early hours (I was snoring away happily), and the next day I asked if he’d mind letting me know what he thought, from a man’s point of view. It appears he was extremely impressed…
Here’s what he thought:
“As a married man who is fairly confident when it comes to pleasuring his wife, I wasn’t expecting a huge amount from this site. Boy, was I misguided.
Logging on to OMGYES.com, it’s obvious that the website itself has been very well designed. Immediately you’re greeted with a very pleasing menu page which has a grid of large buttons, each one featuring a different technique for pleasing a woman (who knew there were so many?) and topics include Edging, Framing, and Consistency to name but a few. Clicking into each topic takes you to a single page where you’ll find an explanation of the technique and video interviews with real women explaining how they do it (or how they like a partner to do it) and why it works for them.
Below this is a more detailed description of the technique, often accompanied by diagrams, and then finally an intimate video demonstration where a woman shows you how she uses the technique on herself.
Some of the techniques also have a “try it yourself” simulation, which is really quite amazing. It’s essentially an interactive vagina, sensitive to touch-screen devices, on which you can practice all the strokes and taps required to master each move. The ‘woman’ attached to the virtual vagina gave me helpful tips on speed, pressure and direction. I can’t deny I had a smug sense of satisfaction each time I successfully ‘completed’ a level and gave her an orgasm.
There’s nowhere to get lost and nothing to get confused with as the site covers every aspect of the techniques in writing, on film and then through the simulation. From the look and feel of using it to the detail put into the HD videos or the brilliantly made simulator, everything is great.
One of the techniques I enjoyed reading about is called layering, where you stimulate the clitoris without directly touching it. This section was one of the most enlightening for me. All of the women in their videos explain that direct contact with the clitoris is usually a bad thing (at least without a lot of warm up), and that stimulating it through fabric or just above/below the clit itself is a much nicer way to be touched.
What Does Layering Mean?
OMGYES compares this layering technique to drinking a cocktail. In their words, “you may be able to take a straight shot of alcohol, but it’s the rare bird that can sip it constantly for a half hour”. You need to add mixers to lessen the intensity and create a more delicious drink! I don’t think many men are too aware of this need for softer, less intense stimulation, especially as clit play in porn is usually direct, fast and furious. My wife has told me that this lesson alone is worth the subscription fee for all men and women out there!
Usually, when a guy is looking at women masturbating on the internet they’re overly sexualized but OMGYES has managed to create videos which, although graphic, are shot in a way which removes the sexualized aspect and shows it in an entirely educational light. I thought it was excellently done and is something I think can be extremely beneficial to men, whether they’re single or in a relationship. I can’t imagine how helpful this site would be for a virgin or someone who’s extremely self-conscious in the bedroom.
There are several techniques discussed that both men and women might not be familiar with. However, by the time I finished reading each segment I understood not only what the terms meant but why they work for some people, due to the quality and accessibility of the content. The videos really helped me to see how I could put these moves into practice.
OMGYES has been extremely enlightening, even in the short time I’ve had access to it. Many of the areas covered are techniques I’d never have considered and that in all honesty I’m sure some women won’t have tried, let alone men.
If you’re a guy or a girl who wants to learn more about how you can pleasure your female partner/s then this site can only be a wonderful thing. I’ve already spoken to a few friends who I know would benefit from gaining more confidence in the bedroom and pointed them in the direction of OMGYes.com.
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My only gripe with the site is from a tech point of view, as the simulation doesn’t seem to be compatible with Microsoft Edge or Internet Explorer, so I had to use Google Chrome to do these. I’m sure this is something that can be worked on by the company itself, but for some users it could be annoying if they don’t want to download another browser.
I think this has the potential to be a truly ground breaking website which has the power to help people have happier, healthier sex lives and above all start talking to each other about how they like to be pleasured. The site also confirms that they’re working on ‘Chapter 2’, so there’s even more content coming our way. Sign me up!”
The OMGYES Effect
After exploring every inch of OMGYES on screen, it seemed as though the time had come to put some of these new skills into practice. At first I felt a bit sorry for my poor husband, as the pressure was really on for him to demonstrate his new moves, but, as with everything, he’s annoyingly talented in all departments and I can’t say I was disappointed. In fact, I think I’m still having that last orgasm, so apologies for any spelling mistakes you spot along the way.
OMGYES not only helped him learn some new things, but it also gave me the confidence to ask for what I wanted. Our ‘first time’ after OMGYES came on a regular old Thursday evening and as it turned out, what I wanted in that moment was a slow, caring, soft, and gentle experience. I communicated this to my husband early on, and just like that we were both on the same page. It was so simple but it meant we both knew how to move and touch, and it made me feel silly that so many times in the past I hadn’t asked for what I wanted for fear of being a burden.
Because I’d set the tone, for the first time in forever when things started to happen I didn’t feel pressured to ‘get on with it’ so that I could orgasm and we could move on to penetrative sex. This pressure to hurry up is always something I do to myself, and I spend ages telling myself he must be bored and that if I could only orgasm quickly he’d finally be able to get to the part he enjoys. My husband says he would happily pack his bags and move in between my legs and not to be so silly, but for myself I feel like I’ve finally shaken that little negative voice telling me I’m taking too long.
Being a master at oral already (why do you think I married him?), my husband knew what he was doing, but this time he took on board several of the techniques from OMGYES, proving that men can indeed multitask.
As a couple we’re not at it like rabbits, but when we do get some ‘alone time’ we’re pretty damn good at it. Like all couples, however, we do tend to stick to a routine of what works best for us. There’s usually some oral sex and I’ll have one or two orgasms, and then we’ll have penetrative sex, where I’ll probably have another one and he’ll get his (reading that back it’s clear I’ve got the better deal here).
This time it was different. There was a lot of kissing, stroking and oral for him. It’s like we were paying attention to each other’s bodies in a different way, not just going through the motions but really noticing. When it came to my turn, my husband started using some of the moves which are great for building anticipation. These made me feel amazing, but as he teased me I also kind of hated him as he withheld the one thing I wanted from me. It drove me wild.
When he finally let me have some lovin’ in the areas I wanted, he must have been paying very close attention to my body language as every time I got close to orgasm he switched things up, and left me hanging. This meant that I actually built up, and was very close to, an orgasm three times, and on the fourth climb he finally let me go — and the effect was mind-blowing. It was like all four of those almost-orgasms got together and had a huge quadruple-orgasm (I called it my four-gasm) rolled into one climax.
It was obvious that my husband had been reading up on how to combat clit sensitivity (also covered on OMGYES), which can help with achieving multiple orgasms, because he seemed to know exactly what to do so that I didn’t lose this magical orgasm, I just kept going.
Five orgasms later, I didn’t know my own name. OMGYES addresses the fact that there are several different kinds of orgasms for women, ranging from ‘meh, that was a little one’ to ‘HOLY MOTHER I CAN SEE STARS AND I NOW LIVE IN SPACE’. I think you can guess which level these orgasms were. I actually saw visions of orange and purple flowers, like paisley patterned wallpaper, which got more colorful with each orgasm. I have no idea how or why that happened, but it did. The human brain is wonderful.
Even before either of us had gone through the site, the fact that we knew we were going to be investing some time and energy into learning more about pleasure got us talking. We both opened up about what made our greatest sex so great — and ultimately the answer was that our most memorable romps were full of anticipation, when we were truly in tune with what each other wanted and how our bodies were reacting to touch.
OMGYES helped us learn how to perfect this, and has been an absolutely amazing addition to our sex life. I feel like we’ve both learned a lot (and I can confirm that my solo sex sessions are also much improved, no more reaching for a vibrator to get it over with) and we have really seen the benefits. I can’t wait to see how it keeps on adding to our sexual experiences, and I certainly can’t wait until OMGYES brings out Chapter 2…
Learn more at OMGYES.com.