If you’re still recovering from the stress that came with holiday shopping, I feel you. It’s not easy to get every important person in your life and the not-so-important office secret Santa a gift without hurting your bank account. Nonetheless, Valentine’s Day is upon us and the gift/day you plan for your boo, bae, wife, baby momma, girlfriend, fiancé, ex-wife, new wife, that girl who has no idea you like her or your ex that you want back is crucial. And if you’re on the fence about doing something romantic for someone special, the answer is: DO IT (even if you think it's too soon or too much). Trust me; you'll get major points and it's better to be safe than sorry. An ex-boyfriend of mine didn't plan anything one Valentine's Day and I brought it up during every single argument for the next two years of our relationship.
Whether you’re looking to get back in the good graces of an ex, to solidify what you’re building with someone you’re just “talking” to or you just want to earn major points and perhaps a special appreciation gesture from your wife or long-time girlfriend (wink wink, nudge nudge), you came to the right place. The pressure is on, so I rallied up a few of my friends to help you all — because I care. I called, texted and even FaceTimed to gather the best V-Day tips for you. Let’s get this done well, on time, and as stress-free as possible. Here is my Valentine’s Day guide. Enjoy!
DON'T go out to dinner
Impractical Jokers’ Joe Gatto shares a big — and surprisingly sweet — don't for those who prefer a cozier Valentine’s Day:
“Stay home and cook. First off, you'll save like a million dollars because all the restaurants gouge romantics on Cupid’s little day. It's like $75 for a Caesar salad. Second, you’ll get points for effort…especially if you can't cook. And with all these internet videos that show you step-by-step instructions, you can literally search for 'romantic ways to serve an avocado' and be a Valentine's Day hero. Lastly, buy a candle and dress up. Don't come to the table in your pajamas.”
Joe also shared that he and his wife have done this every Valentine’s Day since they started dating. Can we all say “AWWW!” I was like, ”Relationship goalssss AFFF ?” (That’s what my exact text said.) This is such a cute tradition.
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DO make a grand gesture
Model Veronika Dash suggests a very useful DO that all men can benefit from. It is all about effort and showing your lady how much you care:
“As cliché as it may seem, there's nothing sweeter than coming home to a trail of rose petals, chocolate and champagne. I've had a lot of Valentine's Days when I'm on location so I'm out of town, and having that special person make an effort to see you even if it means flying to a different city is really a great way to make it a memorable day.”
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DO incorporate their favorite movie into the special day
Vanderpump Rules actress Scheana Marie shared a very unique V-Day tip with me. Any girl would love this and remember it FOR-EV-ER:
“One Valentine's Day, my Valentine and I recreated the No Strings Attached movie. We literally reenacted exact scenes. It was so fun! Girls love movies, so if you know their favorite one, take their favorite scene and find a way recreate it!”
Another cute version of this is to recreate a romantic music video scene.
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DO use Valentine’s Day to make up with your ex
America’s Next Top Model judge Rob James Evans has a tip for anyone who wants their ex back.
"It really depends on how long you have been broken up. If it's like a week or two then that's the perfect time to make up for it. If it's been months it might be harder. Start with the typical things, like flowers and nice meal (every girl likes flowers and food) but to really show your effort, get her something or do something that she mentioned like six months ago when she thought you weren't listening. Whether its big or small, that little thought will show her how much you appreciate her.”
It's never too late to try to make up with someone you care about! Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to show that person you still care. If there’s a special lady you want to make amends with on this day, just go for it. What's the worst that can happen? Rob also gave another quick extra tip: He says a weekend getaway is a nice idea for those in relationships.
DON’T stress yourself out
Model Heidy Delarosa thinks we should all take it easy on Cupid’s special day:
“My advice it's not to stress. Valentine's Day doesn’t always fit a with everyone's schedule because of long distance, work, someone's health, etc. As long as you communicate and find a way to celebrate, its fine. Also, we should show love daily — not just on Valentine's Day! Little random gestures: massages, sweet texts, sexy photos, and small gifts. I love receiving flowers when it's not expected.”
I wholeheartedly agree with Heidy. Though everything is greatly appreciated on Valentine’s Day, randomly giving flowers or making other thoughtful romantic gestures can earn you major points. Sending flowers is severely underrated!
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DON’T wait until the last minute
Timothy DeLaGhetto’s advice is simple: Preparation is key. Whether you're single, married or looking for love, this applies to every man. And truthfully, who wouldn't take his advice? He’s been with his beautiful girlfriend for over five years. That means over five successful Valentine’s Day dates. He knows what's up.
"My main tip for Valentine's Day is to be prepared. You don't have to make reservations at some fancy spot, but at least have a game plan. Cook dinner or set up some cute picnic sh*t if you're broke. The last thing you want is to be that couple driving around to different restaurants because everywhere is packed, then she's mad cause she got all cute just to end up eating pancakes at Denny’s," he says.
Shortly after Timothy provided me with this tip, he sent a follow-up text saying, “Don’t get me wrong; I love Denny’s though.” I’m just throwing that out there: Nothing wrong with some Denny’s, just not on the most romantic day of the year.
Oh… You didn't get my text?
DO go the traditional route
According to model Minyoung Cheong, you can't go wrong with food, flowers, cards, and candy. No matter who you are or what your relationship status is, you’d be a fool not to take her advice.
“If you really have no clue where to start with your Valentine's Day plans, make sure you buy a bouquet of roses, a box of Godiva chocolate, and handwrite a romantic letter! Include dinner and wine in that equation and you just planned a Valentine's Day any girl would be happy with.”
This is perfect for anyone who is in a long-distance situation. Your Valentine will be happy to receive these goodies from you.
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DO use a unique approach to make the day more memorable
Detroit Lions running back Ameer Abdullah has some very detailed advice that really helps with gift presentation and restaurant selection:
“As a mandatory gesture for all guys, I suggest flowers and a planned night out. However, I think it's important to make the presentation bigger than the gifts themselves. Present the flowers in a manner that is intimate and personal, perhaps incorporate a moment that the two of you had previously shared. The presentation really expresses your thoughtfulness and sincerity. With the dinner/night out, maybe take her to a place she's never been, perhaps introducing a new culture or style. That way, you'll be contrasting the emotion of reminiscing on the love of the past (with the flowers) with the emotion of creating new memories and new love by introducing a new restaurant or a new passion. Those gestures should leave your woman fairly happy. But if not, go with plan B and get her a big-time material item haha. Good luck, fellas!“
There is nothing more appreciated than thoughtfulness. Whatever you plan on doing for your Valentine, the noticeable thought and effort is what’s really impressive!
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DO think outside the box
Model Ashley Haas thinks adding a personal, thoughtful touch does the trick:
"Don't get me wrong, every woman loves flowers, but it means so much when the present is also personal. Think outside the box! You don't have to spend a lot of money. The thought and effort means more. Get her something she mentioned once, make something by hand, plan a picnic in the park or cook her a meal. The effort will keep you out of trouble for months, trust me!”
Good handmade gifts include: a handwritten letter, framed song lyrics that remind you of her, a collage of all your special moments, a gift basket with some of her favorite items, a mason jar filled with things you love about her, etc. There is so much you can do with some creativity!
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DON’T disregard the holiday — no matter how much she tells you she doesn’t care for it
Actor Iman Crosson (@alphacat) is so right about this major DON’T I had to save it for last. I’ve seen people make this mistake one too many times. It's a trap!
"If a woman says she hates Valentine's Day, she's lying. NO woman dislikes being spoiled with gifts. It's possible she genuinely doesn't care much for the holiday, but women always like to be showered with gifts and treated well. Women talk… When her girlfriends ask what she did for Valentine’s Day she'll never happily tell her girls: 'I told him not to worry about it, so he didn’t.' You will be the lame who did nothing," he says.
Like I mentioned earlier, one year, an ex-boyfriend of mine disregarded Valentine’s Day entirely. I was furious. I brought it up so much during arguments that he eventually referred to it as the “Valentine’s Day Massacre." Don’t give your significant other this kind of ammunition. You won’t win an argument for at least a year — that’s if you don’t get broken up with for this.
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Well, there it is. Now go forth and conquer. You still have plenty of time to be a Valentine’s Day hero. Whether you have a huge or small budget, have a girlfriend or are making up with an ex, you can have a successful Valentine’s Day with the help of these useful tips. And if you use one in particular, feel free to let the Valentine's Day expert know! Happy Valentine's Day everyone. And thank you to all my friends for providing these tips. I appreciate you!
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