This article is part of a series on the best sex toys out there. We have also reviewed the best sex toys for men — including the best masturbation toys — as well as for women and couples. Take the guesswork out of choosing a sex toy, and above all, have fun.
There are a lot of misconceptions about people who use sex toys. Particularly, when it comes to using a toy with your partner. For example, a lot of ladies and gents out there think that by bringing a toy, or lube, or something that vibrates into the sack, the reason for doing so must be because there's something lacking in the bedroom. Which is completely not true. Actually, it's often the opposite. When the sex is so good that you can't even imagine what could possibly make it better, well, that's the perfect time to start exploring the vast world of sex toys.
But of course, you can't just show up to her place armed with a bag full of vibrators and bondage toys to try. And breaking out a magic wand or cock ring mid act is probably going to make things pretty weird, too. Sex toys aren't the type of thing that you can just slip in (see what I did there?). Experts agree that there needs to be a conversation had beforehand — and not while the two of you are in bed together post coitus.
"Whenever you want to try something new in bed, talk about outside of bed," says relationship expert April Masini. That way there’s no pressure and if one of you rejects the idea, it’s less a rejection of sex than it is of the actual new device." So, how should you frame the conversation?
According to Masini, your best bet is to do your homework, and make sure you know about all the benefits of the toy that you're suggesting the two of you use. "Like anything you’re trying to sell, start with why you think it would be good for the person you’re selling," she says. "In other words, make the pitch be all about the other person!"
Luckily, we've done the work for you. We've rounded up some of the top sex toys out there on the market, and laid out all the pros of each one. Whether you're looking to start small with a sex accessory, a toy that you can both use together, or one for your woman to fly solo with, we've got some suggestions that are sure to make your girl pretty happy.
Toys To Increase Pleasure During Sex
If your woman is into the idea of you using a toy on her during the act, or if the two of you are interested in options that stimulate both your private parts simultaneously (yes, such magic exists), here are a few toys to consider that are easy to operate, and get the job done.
Eva Couples Hands Free Personal Massager
Typically, using a sex toy means that you're taking turns. And of course, it's hot to watch your woman react to all the stimulation of the toy you're using on her. But we don't blame you for wanting to get in on the action. The solution? A couples vibrator that stimulates both of you. The Eva Couples vibrator is designed to be worn during intercourse, and it fits right under your lady's labia. Meaning, both parties get to enjoy the sensation it gives off. Plus, it stays put, no matter what position you and your partner shift to.
$89.46 at Amazon.com
3-Pack Butt Plug Kit By Healthy Vibes
Using butt plugs for the first time usually takes some getting used to. So you'll want to start off small with your partner, and then increase in size as you get more experienced. Which is what makes this 3-pack ideal for first time users. It comes with varying sizes of plugs, so that you can find the one that works best. Plus, when you're ready to upgrade, you'll already have a larger option handy. Your partner can use these plugs to explore the wonderful world of anal stimulation solo, or the two of you can give it a go together.
$19.95 at AdamEve.com
There's a 99.9% chance your girl has heard of "The Rabbit." Made popular by Sex and the City’s Charlotte York, the rabbit is ideal for both beginners and seasoned pros. The Iconic Rabbit features a rotating shaft, and vibrating tickler for extra clitoral stimulation. Plus, it comes with a year long warranty, just in case you two love birds wear it out.
$32.95 at AdamEve.com
Waterproof Finger Vibrator
Once you start using sex toys with your partner, you'll want to have easy access to the amped up pleasure they bring wherever you end up doing the dirty — whether it's in a hot tub on a romantic getaway, or when the mood strikes you in the back of a cab. This vibrator is discreet and easy to carry along wherever the night or weekend takes you. Plus, it's waterproof, meaning you can use it to add to your shower sex routine.
$11.73 at Amazon.com
Fantasy Door Swing
Think about how much fun swinging on a swing was back in your playground days. Now imagine combining that with sex. What a time to be alive, am I right? Using a sex swing opens you up to a whole new world of sex position opportunities. If you're thinking, 'that seems like it'd be uncomfortable,' you're wrong. With a padded seat to keep whoever's on the bottom nice and comfy, and super easy setup (all you need is sturdy door in your house to get this baby rocking), there's no reason not to be swinging your lady to the big O on the regular.
$26.77 at Amazon.com
Hello Touch X Estim Finger Pads
If you're already good with your hands, adding these finger pads to your repertoire will blow your lady's mind. Vibrating finger pads combine the best parts about being touched with all the benefits that vibration can bring when it comes to intensifying orgasm. Pro tip: Don't miss out on the opportunity to use these babies for nipple play.
$10.00 at JimmyJane.com
A:Muse His & Hers Pleasure Massagers
I like to think of this two-for-one-pack as the adult version of getting both ‘boy’ and ‘girl’ toys in your McDonald's happy meal. This two-pack includes a vibrating ring for you to slip your member into, plus a finger massager to use on her. Both toys feature three different speeds to cater to your individual preferences, and provide 35 minutes of vibrating pleasure.
$6.00 at Amazon.com
Toys To Masturbate With
This section is full of toys that your woman can use on her own, when she's missing you. Or while the two of you are having steamy FaceTime sex. Or for her to use when she's teasing you with dirty Snapchats. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that these are gifts you'll also most definitely benefit from.
Adam & Eve Sensual Touch Wand
The great thing about vibrating wands is that they're so versatile. They can be used if you need a strong massage on a sore muscle — or to get down with your bad self. When it comes to wands, the LELO Smart Wand is top. With eight different vibration patterns, it caters to whatever rhythm your woman is in the mood for. Also, this isn't your typical vibrator pulsation, either. The settings feel like you're actually being rubbed down by someone, inciting some of the most powerful orgasms she's ever had before.
$69.95 at AdamAndEve.com
Rechargeable Magic Wand
If this is the first wand (or for that matter, sex toy) that your woman has ever owned and operated, you'll want to go with something that's a step down from the LELO, and more user-friendly. This magic wand features (a more manageable) four vibration settings, with a simple on/off switch. It's also rechargeable, and reaches full power after just three hours of being plugged in. It's a solid beginner sex toy, and an ideal introduction into the magic world of wands.
$39.95.00 at Amazon.com
Crystal Heart Of Glass Dildo
Very few sex toys can double as a statement decor piece, but this glass dildo manages to achieve both. Not only is it beautifully made, but it's carefully crafted to maximize pleasure, thanks to the bulbs featured on the shaft of the dildo. Your woman can even experiment with different temperatures to see what feels good by running this toy under hot or cold water.
$23.47 at Amazon.com
Power Bullet Mini Vibrator
Another ideal toy for a first time user. If the true-to-size vibrators and dildos feel too intimidating for your lady, get her something small that packs just as much of a punch. Slightly over two inches long, this mini pocket vibrator is single speed, battery powered and easy to operate. It's also waterproof, which makes it a breeze to clean.
$7.05 at Amazon.com
Intro 2 Dual-Motor Vibrator
If the woman you're with is the type who likes things that are different and out of the box, this dual-motor vibrator featuring flexible ears will make her pretty happy. It functions similarly to a regular vibrator, but allows you to grab and pinch on to the most sensitive parts of the vagina for extra sensation. Plus, it kind of looks like a bunny rabbit, which she'll think is adorable.
$59.00 at AdamEve.com
Scarlet Couture Glass Ben Wa Balls
There was really no escaping that whole Fifty Shades Of Grey phenomenon. So whether your girl read the books or got herself off to the steamy trailer, chances are she'll know what you're presenting her when you break out these Ben Wa Balls. They're used to strengthen kegels, and increase the power of the pelvic floor. And they feel pretty incredible when they’re in you (trust me). These one inch balls are ideal for beginners. Plus, they come with a handle, so that they won't get lost…up there.
$20.00 at AdamEve.com
Toys For Teasing Your Partner
Foreplay is a key component to a quality sex life, so you'll want to invest in a few toys that take teasing your partner to the next level. Here are the best toys for getting her turned on before the act.
Little Black Thong
The only thing that could possibly be hotter than having a guy buy you lingerie is for said lingerie to come with a built in mini vibrator — that he has total control over. Yes, this is a thing that exists. The vibrator hides inside the panty liner, meaning people will be none the wiser about her wearing it, and it can be controlled from up to 19 feet away. Pro tip: Play with this one out in a public setting. Being turned on without being able to go at it with each other will build up sexual tension that's earth shattering once it finally gets released.
$33.21 at Amazon.com
Carejoy Feather Tickler Spanking Whip
The situation: She wants to try using a whip, but you both want to test the waters with something that isn't so intimidating and hardcore. A happy medium would be to find a whip that doesn't hurt (if you don't want it to) like this feather tickler. It can be used to tease your lady, or you can put some muscle behind it to give her a solid spank. Three cheers for versatility.
$8.99 at Amazon.com
Liberator Leather Handcuffs
Whether you're both into role playing or just like the idea of being restrained, a solid set of handcuffs is key when it comes to toys for foreplay. This quality set is made out of real leather, with adjustable cuffs to fit any wrist or ankle size. Feel free to get creative when using these restraints — and take the time to nail down your bad cop routine.
$90.00 at AdamEve.com
When you're experimenting with bondage materials, tape might seem like an obvious choice. But in practice, the fact that, well, all kinds of hair can wind up getting stuck along with whatever it is you're taping can end up causing unwanted pain. Not so with this bondage tape, which adheres to itself, eliminating the need to stick it to your skin. Just be sure to keep a pair of scissors close by in case the two of you get carried away.
$8.88 at Amazon.com
Under The Bed Restraints
You've tried out the tape and the handcuffs, and you're ready for something more intense. Or, you want to skip the small stuff and go right for the big leagues. These under the bed restraints will take things up a notch — made with velcro fasteners that are easily removed. Plus, the simple setup means more time spent acting out your bondage fantasy.
$16.29 at Amazon.com
Three Bump Silicone Anal Butt Plug
So, your woman wants to play around with butt plugs. One of the weirdest things about starting to use this kind of toy is sticking something in your butt and leaving it there. The solution? A butt plug with a handle. This one features three varying sizes, so that you can play around with different fits until she finds the right one.
$9.00 at Amazon.com
S&M Pony Flogger
Looking for a toy that mixes pleasure with pain? This Cat o’ Nine Tails style flogger will do the trick. Made out of real leather, it features long suede tresses that can either be used as a whip or a tickler. If you're using this on your partner, make sure you've got a safe word.
$30.00 at JimmyJane.com
So they're not necessarily sex toys. But adding a few simple sex accessories to your arsenal is an easy way to shake things up without investing $200 in a vibrating magic wand. Here are a few key recommendations.
Intimate Earth Adventure Anal Relaxing Serum for Her
So, you've been given the green light to enter her backdoor. Obviously, you want to make the experience as pleasant as possible, so that this becomes part of your repertoire instead of just a one time thing. If that's the case, an anal serum that helps relax the other hole will help that cause. This one also happens to be organic, in case your girl is into going green.
$.00 at Amazon.com
RingO Pleasure Ring
It might seem like a cock ring wouldn't benefit your partner. But in addition to that ring providing extra stimulation for her clit, truth is you're also wearing an accessory proven to keep your boner game strong throughout — a welcome advantage. And at three bucks? You can't beat the price.
$7.57 at Amazon.com
Clit Sensitizer Lube
If you're looking for a no frills, easy way to give your girl more pleasure, this clit sensitizer lube will do the trick. Spread a small amount on her clit to make her most sensitive part even more stimulated. The result? A more intense orgasm than she's ever experienced before.
$13.40 at Amazon.com
Yes, you need to wash your toys. And depending on where you're putting them (or especially if you two are taking turns using them) you'll want to clean them off with something stronger than soap and water — but something gentle enough that won't cause irritation to your private parts. This toy cleanser is hypoallergenic and non toxic, made with natural ingredients that give your toy a good clean without any adverse effects.
$20.00 at JimmyJane.com
ZIOOER Fetish Vibrating Ring
Cock rings are awesome and extremely easy to use. What's better than that? Cock rings that vibrate, providing extra clitoral stimulation for her (glad you asked). This one is easy to operate, and since it's made out of silicone it slides right on. Plus, it comes with it's own little battery.
$13.00 at Amazon.com