So, you want to buy a sex toy. Smart decision, my friend. There's no better way to level up your lovemaking than by throwing something new into the mix. And whether it's a sturdy set of handcuffs for that good cop bad cop fantasy you and your lady are looking to act out in the bedroom, something that vibrates, a lube for anal sex or something even kinkier, there's no shortage of suppliers out there that can make all your wildest dreams come true in just a few clicks.
But when it comes to where spend your hard earned dollars buying a sex toy online, you'll want to know the pros and cons of all the key players in the space. In fact, there are things to take into consideration that may have never even crossed your mind. For example, are you okay with your order showing up in a box that has the name of the sex toy retailer boldly displayed for all your neighbors to see? Or are you going to want your delivery to be a bit more under the radar? If you're investing in a pricier sex toy that just doesn't do it for you, what's the return policy? What sites offer free shipping, and which are going to cost you?
We've put together a handy guide to answer all these questions and more. And we asked a few female sex toy enthusiast to speak to their favorite spots for purchasing the latest pleasure gadgets. Here's everything you need to know about how and where to buy a sex toy online.
Adam & Eve
Visit The Store: adamevetoys.com
Best For: Trying new toys. Their price points are low enough that you can add whatever interests you to your cart, and their return policy is generous enough that you can ship it back if it doesn't do it for you.
The name Adam & Eve is appropriate for this sex toy company, as these guys have been in the business almost as far back as the biblical characters go. Established over 45 years ago (when this stuff was super taboo), the site makes it a point to stay up to date with the latest sex toy offerings. Items are divided out into sections, complete with handy guides that accompany each one. The site has their own brand of Adam & Eve products, designed to meet their standards and specifications. All items from the site ship in plain packaging — so no need to worry about neighbors passing judgement. If you're buying something that you don't want your partner to know about (yet) or you're still being floated by mom and dad's credit card, Adam & Eve goes as far as to keep their brand name off your billing statement entirely for added privacy. If your purchase racks up to over $59.00, your shipping is free — otherwise it's $7.99. Don't feel weird about returning something that just didn't do it for you. Adam & Eve's return policy is no questions asked, and as long as you ship it back within 90 days of purchase you get a full refund.
What Others Are Saying: "I like shopping with Adam & Eve because they have a guide for everything," says MacKayla, 26. "My boyfriend probably thinks I'm some kind of sex toy pro, but honestly anything we've talked about trying out is outlined on this site in a guide, so it made it easy to pick out the right toy for what we were trying to do. Also, things are always on sale on this site, which I really appreciate."
Visit The Store: amazon.com
Best For: Amazon Prime Members who can capitalize on free expedited shipping, shoppers who get everything else off this site anyway, and sex toy enthusiasts who are looking for standard options rather than something new or custom.
It's the site you get everything else from, so why not combine your shopping lists and get everything you want delivered to you at once? Although it's not as well streamlined as a dedicated site for sex toys, Amazon's offerings do cover quite a bit — from the typical vibrator and lube selections to more kinkier items like sex furniture. For Amazon Prime members, there are plenty of toys and paraphernalia that fall under free Amazon Prime shipping, many of which can be delivered to your door the very next day. Whatever you buy from Amazon comes in the standard box with Amazon's logo on it — meaning your neighbors will be none the wiser about what it is you're ordering. If you're an Amazon Prime member, shipping is covered in your yearly membership on any items that qualify. If not, the shipping rates vary by item carrier and location. Like with anything you buy off Amazon, returns differ based on sellers. So even if you're an Amazon Prime member, make sure you read the fine print before you get click-happy and start ordering away.
What Others Are Saying: "I shop Amazon for pretty much anything I don't feel like shopping for in real life," says Amber, 26. "So when my vibrator bit the dust last month, I went on Amazon to look for something comparable. Another pro of shopping Amazon are the reviews, so I was able to read what other buyers thought of the product."
Visit The Store: unboundbox.com
Best For: Finding a toy that will impress your lady. This site has their own line of sex toy wearables — I'm talking nipple clamp feather earrings, gentlemen. What a time to be alive.
A newcomer to the industry, Unbound is a sexual lifestyle company that specializes in quarterly sex toy subscription boxes, one-off thematic sets, and most recently an original collection called the "Unbound Collection" — a line of jewelry that doubles as sex toys. Pro tip: There's nothing that will score you points with a lady quicker than giving her a piece of jewelry she can also get herself off with. If you're in need of just one item rather than a set or collection, you can also browse by category and buy products individually. Unbound orders come in discreet, plain brown packaging. Quarterly subscription boxes based on whatever it is you're into start at $65 and include shipping. If you're making a one time purchase, shipping rates get calculated based on where you're located. Unbound is big on pleasure, so if you're not into what you purchased, they welcome you to come back and try something new, and will issue a store credit.
What Others Are Saying: "If you don't know exactly what you want, subscribing to Unbound is a fun way for you to find out," says Kassie, 25. "For our year anniversary my boyfriend bought us an Unbound box subscription. It feels like Christmas whenever a new one shows up. I think trying new things has really made us stronger as a couple."
Visit The Store: screamingo.com
Best For: Shopping for anything that vibrates, from cock rings to clit stimulators.
Screaming O launched just a little over ten years ago, but they've already made waves in the business with their signature products. Known for the super colorful designs behind their sex toys, the company focuses on vibrators and vibrating rings (and basically anything else you can put in your butt or vagina that vibrates). All Screaming O orders over $20 ship for free across the U.S., and arrives in discreet packaging. Don't love it? Screaming O's products come with a money back guarantee.
What Others Are Saying: "The first time I ever had an orgasm while having sex was thanks to a vibrating cock ring with clit massager from Screaming O," says Nicole, 24. "I was ordering something else and it was totally an afterthought — but hands down the best six bucks and change I ever spent on a whim."
Visit The Store: babeland.com
Best For: First timers looking to buy a toy for themselves or their partner (or both)!
This company was started back in 1993 by two women who wanted to take the taboo out of buying a sex toy, offering approachable customer service geared toward helping their clients find the right fit when it comes to the toy or product they're purchasing. Their online store aims to do the same, with information offered throughout each shopping section to help inform your purchase. Standard shipping fees apply, starting at $8.50 and up depending on what you order and where you live. All items are shipped in packaging that doesn't look like it's from a sex toy retailer. As far as returns go, if you're not satisfied, you're out of luck. But if your item is defective, you can exchange it in store for a credit.
What Others Are Saying: "If you're going to shop with them, I'd go to the actual Babeland store vs. ordering online," says Heather, 27. "Especially if you're going with your partner, the store really creates this positive vibe around trying out whatever kinky thing you're eyeing. The site itself is just like any other site you'd buy a sex toy from — but with a worse return policy."
Visit The Store: jimmyjane.com
Best For: Shoppers looking for something a bit outside the box — like a sensual massage oil candle.
Since launching a little over ten years ago, Jimmy Jane has earned the reputation for it's out of the box signature line of products — from custom sensual candles to massage lotions and, for those with deep pockets, the 24k gold vibrator. It's not actually made of gold but — but some ladies say it's just as valuable. Jimmy Jane offers flat rate shipping at $5 a pop. If you want to return something, you're going to need to get in touch with their customer service department and jump through some hoops — but they do accept returns.
What Others Are Saying: "Jimmy Jane's line of clitoral stimulators are like nothing else I've ever tried," says Laura, 23. "It's easy to drop lots of cash shopping on that site, but if there's one thing you add to your sex toy roster from here let it be something from their 'FORM' line."