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As men, the burden is on us to make a good impression. We take the initiative and the risk when we go after a woman and court her, as ancient as the term is. But court we do, because as the hunter, we have no choice.
If we do not chase, we stay home alone in front of the television with beer as our sole comfort. Even if your last name is Clooney or Cruise, you still have to stick your neck out there and take a chance at rejection when you find an attractive woman you want to date.
Now before the accusations fly that Lawrence Mitchell is an advocate of relentless pursuit of women, let me qualify my stance: As men, we have to instigate contact in order to pique the curiosity of our "target." However, if we do our job and impress her, we can step back (we hope) and expect her to make a move of her own.
Playing with the sexes
Such is the modus operandi in the infinite interplay of the sexes. As men, our primordial urge is to seek out a partner, in the most active sense. Women, on the other hand, can sit back like HR Managers at a Fortune 500 firm and peruse a list of applicants before choosing a worthy candidate, or candidates, for the "job."
Your first date is the interview. Yes, I know that she is under a certain amount of scrutiny as well and that women are on their best behavior on that first date too, but for the most part, the onus is on the man to create the magic. Just look for proof of that on your television set, with the influx of reality relationship shows. We are under the microscope, if not the gun, my brothers.
And so you pass the first date test. You were nervous and keen to impress, but you did it. Dinner was good, the atmosphere was nice and she had a good time. You made her smile and you were a perfect gentleman.
As a result, her HR department extends an invite for a second encounter. Score. But now, rather than meet with a rep at the bottom of the corporate food chain (go with the analogy here, people), you have to pass muster with the Vice President of HR. A more intricate procedure? Yes.
On to date number two…