Let's be realistic: Your soon-to-be-wife's engagement ring is going to get all of those social media likes. And it should, considering how much you had to save up to buy her the dream ring that she likely dropped a bunch of subtle (or not-so-subtle) hints about. But when you officially become husband and wife, you'll have a bit of luxe jewelry of your own — your wedding band. As something that you'll (hopefully) wear the rest of your life, it's important to select a ring with the right fit, style and statement that fits both your personality and your lifestyle. (So yes, you can drop some hints of your own.)
Not sure where to start? Most men aren't, especially considering that this will likely be the first time that you've worn anything on your hand for any extended period of time. You might struggle with getting used to wearing and seeing something on your hand each day, but if you really like the design and you feel at ease wearing it, you'll quickly forget that it's even there. Just take a look at your father's or your grandfather's hands these days — they probably can't get the sucker off!
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If your spouse-to-be wants to check off 'hubby's wedding band' off her bridal to-do list, ASAP, but you're struggling to figure out what you want, don't worry. Luckily for you, jewelry designers and experts know how to match the right man to the right band, and have provided their go-to tips and recommendations for your upcoming nuptials:
1. Weight & Comfort
Aida Bogosian, the owner of the Michael B. and Matthew's Jewelry Store in Studio City, California says to stick to the most basic of preferences when you begin shopping for your wedding band. What do we mean? Focus on 'weight' and 'comfort' — which over the course of your marriage will impact your hand more than you think. Bogosian explains that weight matters because all metals have different densities. "Platinum is heavier on the finger, so it may be cumbersome. Metal selection really depends on how much or often the hands are used," she explains.
As for how it feels? All bands have different endings — from rounded-edges to studded ones and straight-edges. Bogosian suggests trying on several bands so you can compare the fit and the feel. And don't just stand there while you have it on — start an animated conversation, clap your hands, shake someone's hand. Basically, perform the types of hand movements that you'd do on a normal day. That will give you the best idea of how it'll actually feel to be a wedded man, with a ring on his hand.
Worried about knowing if it is 'The One'? Lauren Priori, private jeweler and owner of Lauren Priori Jewelry reassures that your gut will clue you in. "You'll know you've found the right wedding band the same way you know you found the right partner — it just feels right," she says.
2. Consider Your Personal Style
By now, you've probably talked to your fiancée about what type of bride she'll be, and about wedding planning and all the details it entails. She might have selected cooler colors over warmer ones, or decided to stick to traditional statements or inched more toward the modern ceremony trend. Though you might not exactly relate to these selections, what your partner is expressing is her personal taste and style. And when it comes to your wedding band, you'll need to tap into what matters to you the most. It might seem like just 'any other ring' — but it is far from that: It is the one accessory you'll wear from the time you walk down the aisle until forever — or the end of the marriage.
Priori says to peek into your closet and dresser before heading to your wedding band appointment. "Consider your personal style and current wardrobe. Do you love classic polos and boat shoes? A medium width, shiny yellow gold band is a timeless classic. Do you prefer bold, masculine touches? Try a wide black Tungsten band for a strong look. Your wedding band should be an extension of your everyday style," she advises.
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3. Consider Your Lifestyle
Another thing to keep in mind? Your daily habits. When it comes to choosing the perfect groom's ring, it is important to consider his lifestyle. If the groom has a labor-intensive, hands on, job you'll want to choose a metal that is sturdy enough to stand up to repeated abuse without being easily damaged," explains jewelry designer, Laura Preshong. "Similarly, if the groom's major hobbies are woodworking and playing football on the weekends, you'll want to pick a metal that can take some punishment. You'll appreciate your wedding ring more when you put a little thought into it."
4. Practice Wearing It
You'll likely have your wedding band purchased and waiting for The Big Day at least a few months before the wedding. This gives you plenty of time to try it on for size and get used to wearing it. It might seem like bad luck since you're not 'technically' married quite yet, but Priori says this helps you to get used to wearing jewelry 24/7. "It's important to get used to your band while doing things that don't require you to use your hands much, like reading or watching TV. You'll feel your ring the most when typing on the computer," she says.
The Best Wedding Bands For Men
When it comes to actually making the purchase, you have several options of where to find your wedding band. There are plenty of custom shops that will make a custom ring just for you, that will be engraved and personalized. Or, if you're OK with a more traditional and standard approach, everywhere from Amazon to Kay Jewelers and Zales offer selections in every metal, width, style and price range.
Real talk? This is likely the only piece of jewelry you'll ever wear this often, so if you want to go big on this purchase, price-wise, there's no better time than now.
With countless metals and finishes to choose from, not to mention styles and aesthetics, here are some of the best wedding bands to help you start thinking creatively about your selection:
Less into carats and would rather have an interesting band that tells a story or matches your vibe? Consider this one, with a textured design that resembles the beach. While marriage won't always be easy, maybe it'll remind you of the summer days when waters get rocky.
$574.69.00 at Amazon.com
Is your heritage super-important to you? Instead of going the traditional route, consider incorporating your family's surname into the design. This Celtic wedding ring is a great option for an Irish background, but plenty of others can match your Scottish, English or other country-specific history.
$974.66 at Amazon.com
You have heard all of the commercials for engagement rings, all encouraging you to be selective of your metal and to go with the best quality. But other decisions are also at play, and if you're indecisive by nature, this will be another time when you can't make up your mind. If you can't decide between diamonds and a twisted band, you don't have to with this platinum option. Made from conflict-free diamonds and made in the United States, this is a solid choice for something you'll wear day in and day out.
$6,072.00 at Amazon.com
The Rock Star
For a gorgeous, yet simple design, go for the 'Love' ring from Cartier. Though pricey for a men's engagement ring, you will feel like a rockstar sporting it around… forever.
$1,650.00 at Cartier.com
The White Gold
Does your bride dream about those wedding photos where your hands are tied together and your rings just look like they fit, perfectly together? Zales has solid options for wedding bands, especially if you'd like to match your wife-to-be's ring and stick with white gold or sterling silver. Want some diamonds of your own to keep it consistent? Try this comfort-fit band that has just a tad of sparkle.
$440.30 at Zales.com
The Old Faithful
When you think of a wedding band, do you imagine a gold, medium-width band? Most men do. This is a very traditional, very common type of style that you've probably seen your father (and his father and his father) sport for their marriages. The rounded end will make it more comfortable, while the simplicity will help you stay rooted in tradition.
$765.00 at Laurapreshong.com
The Mixed Metal
So you're into diamonds or mixed metals and colors? Instead of going the traditional route, consider researching and trying on a few bands that are a tad flashier than expected. One option is the Bolt Collection from Michael B. Jewelry. Here, you'll find a nice variety of widths and designs, from diamond-studded to layered metals.
Find a retailer at Michaelbjewelry.com
The Classic Black
Instead of going for the gold, more into the sleek, timeless design of a black engagement ring. It is true that black goes with everything and it might feel more masculine than other options. This one from Kay Jewelers is a nice — and inexpensive! — option if you're trying to save money for the wedding, honeymoon, a house — or all three!
$251.30 at Kay.com