A monogamous, one-on-one relationship simply may meet all your needs, and if so that's perfectly fine, and reasonably normally nowadays. Often your main partner may be a suitable match in terms of intellectual compatibility or financial resources, but perhaps so much not in terms of bedroom activity. When your sexual needs aren't met, it puts strain on any relationship, and it may get to the point that you realize you need to venture outside of your relationship, or simply invite others into it, in order to find true sexual gratification.
No two relationships are the same, and what works for one couple may not work for the next. Although, often at the beginning of a relationship, we like to think of our partner as the perfect match, the truth is it's nearly impossible to find someone who perfectly meets all of your needs, all of the time. For one thing, we are always changing, adapting, and growing and as so our needs and priorities will change from one year, or even one month to the next, both in and out of the bedroom. Secondly, perfection is overrated and somewhat of a mythical idea in the first place. Even when someone meets all of your needs on paper, at times you may simply need something your significant other can't provide: that is, something new or different.
Open relationships allow you to explore (usually intimate) encounters and relations with others, while stay retaining with one main partner. Depending on the terms of your open relationship, you may share details or even experiences of these outside encounters with your main partner, or may keep them to yourselves. Ideally, and to avoid a lot of backlash and troubles in the future, both partners are aware that they are in an open relationship, but as we all know that's not always the case.
For some people, the idea that they cannot fulfill all of their partner's needs can be devastating, leading them to think they are not good enough, or that their relationship simply doesn't work, when in fact neither of those are likely true. First of all, we are all ‘good enough', you just might have to adjust the lens you are looking through to see this (and that lens really shouldn't be solely based on what your partner thinks and says). Secondly, relationships work and don't work for all sorts of reasons and when you and your partner are both on the same page about what you each need in order to get your sexual needs met, an open relationship may actually improve the quality of your relationship overall, as backwards as it may seem to outsiders.
As social creatures, it's just a fact we need more than one person in our lives. Some say you become a combination of the five people you spend the most time with, while others suggest social support can be one of the most, if not the most important factors in preventing a number of mental health issues. If you spend all of your life and time with only one person, you're actually doing yourself, and likely that other person a disservice. While it's pretty easy to understand why we do need the influence and interaction of others besides our significant others in our lives, it can be difficult to determine how much or how in depth we should engage in external sources (aka people) to find satisfaction, pleasure, and overall well being, without prevent problems with our main relationships.
This is also where the concept of cheating comes into play. Depending on a variety of factors, most likely including your upbringing and relationship history, you may define cheating as anything from watching porn to having multiple, full-time, intense emotional and physical relationship on the side. In open relationships some partners are perfectly fine with their significant other hooking up here and there but would consider their partner having an emotional relationship, even one that doesn't involve touch, to be unacceptable. For others it's vice versa or any number of other acceptables and unacceptables. When you can remove the idea of 'cheating' from the picture, you and your partner may be able to find sexual satisfaction that works on both of your terms by including one or more additional people, and still maintain a solid and healthy relationship otherwise. Whether it's dating while married, swigging, or polyamory, all of these add-on sexual encounters and scenarios would fall into the realm of open relationships.
However you've stumbled upon the idea of open relationships, you're not alone. The number of people open to non-monogamy is on the rise, with nearly half of all couples indicating they would consider an open relationship. And as there's a demand for something, the market for it only grows, which is why there are now a number of dating sites specifically designed for open relationships. These sites may be ones you use secretively, or use with your partner (literally) by your side, and they are available for all types of open relationships, including those for one time encounters, swinging, polyamory, and more. Read on to discover the best dating sites for open relationships available you should be exploring right now.
No Strings Attached
No Strings Attached is dedicated to helping 'attached' or single men and women, find others for discreet sex, married affairs, and basic dating, although the latter is probably the least popular use of it. The hookup site facilitates online and in person sexual encounters through an impressively large focus on video including member-uploaded videos, live streams, and video broadcasts. Keeping with the concept of discreteness, the online dating site allows you to turn on and off profiles instantly and ensure access to the site is exclusive to members only, which isn't always the norm even with site that cater to open relationships.
You receive matches based on a fairly detailed matching system that incorporates your inputted preferences including the basics such as age and location, along with more specific ones like how long of an encounter you are seeking and if you are looking for something in person, virtual, or both. The private network feature is another handy option that goes right along with the site theme. It allows you to create private networks of selected individuals, which essentially just ads another layer of privacy. Beyond these unique aspects, the site hosts all the standard features you've come to expect from an online dating site including the options to browse, run, basic and advanced searches, add members to a ‘hotlist', like photos, and send messages.
If privacy is a large concern for your open relationship dating, No Strings Attached stands out as an open relationship site that makes discretion a priority.
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Swingerlifestyle is an active site geared towards those in committed relationships seeking external sexual encounters. You can sign up as an individual (straight, bi, or bicurious) or a couple and select what type of pleasures, from tame to wild, you are seeking. You find and interact with others through the traditional online dating methods of searching, chatting, and seeing who's currently online. There's also a rather unique ‘Hot date' section, which is basically a calendar where users post their availability for individual dates and open-relationship get togethers, such as swinger parties and other sexually-oriented meet and greet events.
If you're just looking to explore and learn more, there's an active forums section you can read and participate in, various groups you can join, and a clubs section which provides a list of all open-relationship venues in your area. The site also hosts large get togethers organized by category of people the event is intended for, such as those in certain age ranges, or those looking for specific pleasures, in case you're interested in venturing out on a open-relationship style vacation.
Swingerlifestyle has an active user base, with around 1000 new profiles created each week, making it a good option if you're looking to meet someone quickly and secretively.
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Dedicated to the swinger lifestyle, Fabswingers 'matches' you based on your fetishes and sexual preferences rather than your personality and character traits. With over 130,000 daily users throughout the U.S. and UK the site has a large enough user base that it's easy to find others you could potentially meet up and hookup with. You can sign up as either a male, female, straight couple, homosexual or bi couple, or TV/TS/CD, and upon signup you also select your sexual interests, which ranges from taking photos and phone sex, to fisting, SM, and other more erotic choices. Upon entering the site, you'll search users based on these interests, along with other filters, such as those willing to travel and a somewhat unusual, yet useful filter of ‘hide anyone who has blocked single guys'.
After 72 hours on the site you can use its main feature which is basically a request to have an immediate sexual encounter, where you specify what kind of person/encounter you're looking for. You can also browse and search through existing requests if you're more comfortable responding to others rather than putting yourself out there. Of course, there's no guarantee you'll get a 'date' based on your request so it's best to also incorporate other sections of the site in your online dating journey such as the chatting, direct messaging, and using the fairly active message board, which is organized into categories based on sexual interests and location. One standout feature of the site is the Verified Genuine Profile section located on user profile pages, which shows essentially reviews of that user from other users, often going into detail about what their encounter consisted of along with additional advice based on past hookups.
For an almost completely free site, Fabswingers provides a useful service that cuts through all the small talk and really offers an outlet to find other solely for sexual encounters.
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As the name suggests, Horny Wife is the place sexual adventure seeking married women come to find hookups and affairs. With over 72 million members worldwide, the site self advertises as the place lonely, and one can only assume sexual dissatisfied, housewifes go to live our their sexual fantasies. Of course, that's just the clientele the site attracts, as it's designed for all different types of couples and individuals to join, including males, females, straight couples, homosexual or bi couples, groups, and those who identify as TV/TS/CDs.
As a friend finder network site, Horny Wife has an abundance of features making it as much of a hookup site, as a hookup community. From messaging and video chats, to liking profile pictures and building a fan base, the site offers various options for engaging with others and experimenting sexually. You receive matches based on your cupid preferences, which are pretty basic but do help to filter matches based on the sexual orientation of other(s) you are looking to meet. Beyond your daily matches, which are more than enough to keep you entertained for a while, you can find others through various, detailed searching or playing a Hot or Not style liking game. The open relationship site is somewhat hard to distinguish from a porn site, as it's complete with uncensored, very explicit user profiles, along with life action user and model webcams you can view and interact with others on.
If you're looking for a lively, engaging open relationship site that doesn't leave much to the imagination (in a good way), Horny Wife is a top ranking option to fulfill your sexual desires.
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Perhaps the most popular (or notorious depending on how you look at it) dating site, Ashley Madison has been helping individuals who are married or in committed relationships have affairs since 2001. An extremely clear, easy to navigate layout and no nonsense approach to online dating is likely what keeps people coming back to the site year after year, building a user based reported at 46 million and counting. Because it's the closest thing to a household name in terms of dating sites for affairs, the site naturally attracts a similar minded user base, which is what allows it's no bells and whistles approach to finding open relationships work seamlessly.
There is no formal matching system, but instead you discover others primarily by searching, meaning this is a site where you'll get out of it what you put in. Without a matching system it's helpful in this case to at least scan over user profiles, which have convenient sections that express what each user is looking for such as the 'My Intimate Desires' and 'My Perfect Match' open-ended boxes. Profiles also feature a member feedback area, where other members have ranked that profile, which although isn't unheard of is fairly rare and more importantly helpful in identifying who you might want to contact, and who just won't be worth your time.
If you're looking for an established open relationship online dating site, unquestionably Ashley Madison would be the first choice.
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Although not exclusive to open relationships, Adam4Adam remains one of the best sites for gay online dating sites allowing men to find other men for a variety of relationships including threesomes, group sex, virtual sex, NSA, and other miscellaneous fetishes. More oriented as a hookup site, the gay online dating site incorporates fields for all the things you'd want to know in each profile such as sexual role, out (openly gay or not), scene (casual, conservative, military, etc.) and more. The site makes any hookup process simple and straightforward, but doesn't do so at the sake of your safety, as all profiles must go through an approval process.
The sign-up process takes less than two minutes, and once on the site you can browse you can browse members, check out events happening in your area, and view live cams. It's largely sex-oriented, and operates more like an escort posting community, than an actual dating site that has a fancy algorithm to match you. As so it attracts the type of men who are looking for no strings attached relationships within a non-judgmental online environment. Users tend to be just as straightforward on the site, cutting out the small talk and initiating sexual conversations and meet-ups as quickly as possible. The site has a large, active user base, is very location oriented (which means in person hookup oriented as well) and, amazingly is 100% free.
If you don't want to mess around with trying a few different dating sites in search of one that has an active gay community, Adam4Adam is your best bet.
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